The brief time I spent blogging on Cardrunners captured some pretty
dramatic and challenging moments, which included a full blown nervous
breakdown. The support I recieved from people who had dealt with similar
experiences, or who simply wanted to offer encouragement was very
helpful. Thanks for that. I don't plan on resuming my blog, but a number
of these issues have more or less come to a close, so I thought I would
share a quick update.
I've been in very good health for quite a
while now, and that's a relief. I've even been meds free for a few
months, so things are looking really good. Losing my health for a while
there scared the pants off me, and I can't thank my family, friends, and
fiance enough for their incredible support when it really counted.
engaged! I proposed to Natalie a few weeks ago on Vancouver Island. She
said, "SERIOUSLY?"... and then she said yes. I couldn't be happier
about it. As a younger person I never imaged myself being in love, let
alone married, but it's a pretty awesome thing to have happen.
things turned out pretty darn okay. I ended up losing a ballstastic
amount of money, but I kept my shirt, and when the dust started to
settle I had enough to pay off the mortgage on my townhouse (which I
should have done a long time ago, but if you remember how things were
pre-2008, well... leverage-leverage-leverage). I've got two last pieces
of real estate that are set to close in about a month, and after that I
won't have a penny of debt to my name. House withstanding, I won't own
anything, either, but I'm pretty frickin fine with that.
I haven't played a lot of poker this year. It comes and goes.
So, what are some things I've learned? Lots. Here are some of the more important ones:
If you're angry or sad to the point that it bothers you (sometimes it's
okay to be a little angry) eat something. If that doesn't work, sleep.
Having lots of money but being kind of useless doesn't give you great
security. If you lose the money then you're just some useless guy, and
nobody's going to pay you for that.
3) Being a decent person, however, will get you a lot of things from people. Those things might not be money, but they will probably be enough.
Nobody anywhere really gets what's going on. You probably already knew
that, but just in case you were wondering if the bigger guys at the
banks, the law firms, and the accounting offices knew what was going on
with civil law or the economy, don't worry, they don't get it either.
In a bad situation it's easy to imagine how things will get worse, but
just because you can't imagine how things might get better doesn't mean
they won't. If you weren't omincient enough to see the bad stuff coming
there's no reason to believe you'll see the good stuff coming
6) There are just some people who do truly suck,
to an incredible extent. But the world's a big enough place that they
can be more or less ignored.
7) Hitting things in your basement is okay. Don't hurt yourself.
Fire everyone who can't be bothered to return your calls within the
week. Do you have a lawyer like that? Fire them tomorrow. I'm serious.
What you need your lawyer to do is not special and it is not
complicated. The only criteria that determine whether a lawyer is a good
lawyer for 99% of people are 1) cost 2) are they sober? 3) can they
return a phone call?
9) You can teach most people how to do most things. You can't teach character. Hold on to your good people.
10) Always make your lists an even ten.